The Family that Spades Together...

We had this pit in our yard because of a huge red oak tree. It was an old landscaping flaw done way before we moved in. I was afraid it was going to erode away the whole backyard, so I ordered a load of dirt. I was at the dentist's when the dirt arrived (for a double root canal, see the blog on pain... BTW, it was no big deal. Root canals are not what they used to be.) Anyway, the dirt hauler dumped the pile of dirt about ten yards from the pit. He said that was as close as he could get. So, we borrowed shovels from friends and neighbors and began shoveling it in.

It was tough, hard work, but I think it was good for us to work on a project together. I was proud of my wife and kids for their hard work. We filled the kid's wagon, a shovel at a time, and dumped it in.

We finally got some relief, though, from Larry Jones, a parishioner from church. He brought out his tractor and finished it for us. He did in about three hours what would have taken us a couple of weeks to do. You can see the before and after pictures here.

The One That Got Away

We went to my grandparents' place yesterday. They live on a lake so the kids got in some fishing. Between them they caught about 10 small fish -- here's a picture of the first two they caught. I had the swell (isn't that a great old word; I'm a swell guy with a head to match...) job of pinching the worms into pieces and baiting the hooks -- and taking the fish off the hooks when they got caught.

The water was so clear we could see fish swimming around beneath the peer. A couple of really big black bass were cruising around and both kids hooked one of them -- but each time, it got free. One of them bit right through my daughter's line and took hook, line and sinker.

I'm sure it was a whopper, but for now, it's just the one that got away.

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Why a Loving God Allows Pain

I just found out I need a root canal. Fun huh? They prescribed some pain medicine for me to take now -- and also to take when they work me over.
You want to know the funny part? I drove to the dentist’s office and walked right in the front door of my own volition. No one threatened or forced me. I wanted to go because my tooth was hurting and the only way to stop the pain was to go through more pain.
Do you see what I am saying? An oxymoron? Perhaps, but it might help us understand how God can be in control, but allow awful things to happen in his world.
Often, we think we would be happiest if all of our troubles went away. We envision the perfect life as one devoid of difficulty. But that’s simply not true. A life without challenge is not a life worth living. There is no victory without conflict. How boring would it be if you knew your favorite team could never lose? The games would be meaningless and the victories hollow. An abundant life is only possible when it contains conflicts, difficulties, challenges and heartache. That’s the price we pay for living with the possibility.
Don’t get me wrong, I would never in a million years compare the ache of a tooth to the pain a parent feels when she loses a child. I would rather sit in the dentist’s chair the rest of my life than lose a child in a school shooting.
What I am saying is that God knows in his infinite wisdom that we must go through some sorrow now in order to live pain-free in eternity. If he hadn’t given us free will, our love for him would have never been real. But the price of true love and free will is living in a fallen world. You can’t have one without the other. If we could, God would have gone that route to begin with. If Jesus could have avoided the agony of the cross, he would have done so. It is comforting to know we have a God who walked in our shoes and can emphasize with us.
God never promised us a life without suffering. He said, instead, that we would die and that we would have distress. You knew that in the gym, no pain equals no gain. You knew that hunger pains were necessary for a successful diet. You knew the sting of childbirth was necessary to experience the joys of parenthood. Pain, then, has value if it is for a purpose.
The Bible teaches that God plots out our lives before we are born. If we live a century, that’s his plan for us; if we are cut down by cancer or a madman, then our lives stand as a warning to all that life on earth is short and there are no guarantees. Our death would remind others that we must be ready to meet our maker today. Or, it may bring about social change or do some other good. Every life has purpose, no matter how long it lasts. And yes, God even uses evil people for his ultimate goals.
Careful, though, I’m not saying God causes people to commit evil, but I believe he uses everything we do, good or bad, for his final will. In other words, either God is in control or he is not, and I say he is. How he remains in control while allowing us free will in a sinful world is a mystery that I will never fully understand. That’s okay, Paul couldn’t quite see it either. But life without that hope would be like going to the dentist with no anticipation of the pain ever ending.

Supernatural versus Anti-natural

This is an e-mail I received from my brother, Kevin, this week. Kevin and I like to discuss the deeper issues of the universe. I loved this essay:

"I wanted to talk to you about the distinction C.S. Lewis makes between supernatural and anti-natural. It is difficult to define outside of giving examples. The Bible describes supernatural acts of God (miracles) that may be unnatural, but not anti-natural. Lewis says in mythology, trees talk, ships become goddesses, men become literal beasts, and so on.
In these cases, were they to occur, we would realize we were being invaded by a power - but an alien power - not a power in keeping with nature. In particular, God's "style" is that he does not so defy nature in his acts that he is alien to it. All belongs to him and his acts tend to reflect that he is the God of nature.
When Jesus healed legs they still walked naturally; restored eyes saw naturally; the manna came with the dew and literally spoiled if not used. The miracle, once it occurs, becomes part of the stream of nature much like a branch thrown in a river - it continues downstream. Lazarus was resurrected but he died again, etc.
What about Balaam's donkey? That was more in line with a theophany, not a nature miracle as such. God clearly "opened the mouth" of the donkey, but the text says it was the Angel of the Lord communicating in this unusual way. Same with the burning bush. If the donkey were portrayed as understanding what it was saying - that would in fact be anti-natural.
I sensed this several years ago but did not know what to call it. I gave the example of God's making a gigantic mosquito to suck up all the water in the flood. Certainly God could do that, but he doesn't seem to do the preposterous. A donkey with human reasoning, a man who is immortal in this earthly body, and a moon-sized mosquito are all monsters. God doesn't make monstrosities."

Jumping and Digging

We got the kids a trampoline for Christmas this year and have all had a great time jumping in between the raindrops this winter and spring. But we couldn’t help but notice something strange. Our resident dachshund, Jello, has dug up the whole back yard this year. There aren’t any moles out there, either, and I couldn’t figure it out. But my son, the GT genius, saw what was happening. Jello was digging furiously every time the kids jumped. He was picking up the vibrations of the jumping -- and going after some imagined subterranean critter.
I don’t know how to solve this, so for now all we can do is watch the confused pup dig up the yard every time we jump.

Stand Firm and Bow Your Neck

Stand firm. Bow your neck. These are two of the phrases my brother and I remember our dad saying to us when we were still living at home. Kevin, my brother, sent me an email this week with the “top ten sayings from Pops”.
Most of the sayings on the list were pretty standard fatherly stuff like, “Read everything you can get your hands on.” Some of the sayings applied only to us, since we worked for him at his radio station: “When public safety is at stake, interrupt all programming.” Some were downright funny, like “Don't go in there; you might walk up on an alien!”
But Kevin’s number one saying was “stand firm.” That’s some good advice, and if I recall, he said it when we were teenagers. He was admonishing us to take a stand for our beliefs, our rights, our convictions – and to stick with it and not crumble or waffle. Kevin and I are in our mid forties and I hope we are still taking that advice.
My number one saying from Dad is “bow your neck.” He said this to me the day I drove home from Texas A&M after only one day. I didn’t think I could do it and needed him to be strong and send me back down there – which is exactly what he did. When he said it, I got the picture in my mind of putting my head down and shoving forward. The advice could be for facing any difficult task. You clinch your fists, bow your neck, and push ahead with all of your strength.
I went back to Aggieland the next day and have the ring and degree to prove it. If you know me, you know I suffer from homesickness. For some reason, it always takes us two days to drive to the mountains, but we get home in just one day. Once we cross the Texas border, we’re nearly home, even if it’s six hundred miles away!
What struck me as interesting about Kevin’s list and my addition is that Dad said these things after we were pretty much grown. Dads, if you think your children need you when they are young, I’m here to tell you they need you just as much as they get older. Your help and advice will never no longer be needed.
It is terribly important for young children to have their dads around, but that importance never wanes. Experts say children’s personalities are pretty much set by the time they are seven, so dads need to be there in the formative years. But pre-teens face difficult social issues and they need their dads to be alert. Then, teenagers are forming decisions that will affect the rest of their lives – and you guessed it, they need their dads to be part of that.
Often, it is during those teen years that the communication breaks down between fathers and children, but that is a tragedy because kids need their dads as much as ever. To say dads are no longer needed is like picking a wheel on a car and saying it is not as important as the others. Children need their dads during every phase of their lives.
To this day, I hear my dad telling me to bow my neck when the going gets tough, and I must admit I’ve already used that phrase on my own son. I want my children to stand firm on their convictions and I want them to bow their necks and face the challenges of life. And I want to be right behind them when they do.